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Brian Weiss Seminar

2009-03-09T17:09:00Z

Despite my long interest in past-life regression, I have made few serious attempts to pursue it. It is one of the mysteries of the field that there are not more qualified therapists devoted to it even as studies consistently prove that regression is beneficial to a person's emotional/spiritual progress. My one previous visit to a past-life regression therapist was not successful.

I had the feeling, though, that Dr. Weiss' seminar would be an opportunity to make strides. The first exercise in the seminar allowed me to relive my previous life and help to explain my phobia of marriage. Dr. Weiss guided us into a deep state of hypnosis. I was extremely relaxed yet aware. Relaxing my conscious mind allowed me to perceive spontaneous images from the soul level. At first I saw a wedding taking place from what seemed to be the 19th century( most likely ) by the attire. Due mostly to my lack of practice in hypnosis the images were fragmented. I next saw the same woman from the wedding run in a hurried manner and the next image was her( myself in the life ) getting married again. I think going through two marriages proved to be enough! Whereas my dreams mostly contain images from people I have seen before, these were stories containing vivid pictures of people I never met.

More than just my own experience, I learned from the stories of others. Hearing other people share their accounts of dreams during a child helped me to understand that my own dreams at that time were not just random but may have pointed to clues of a prior life. Also the exercise following lunch was the most dramatic. In it, Dr. Weiss asked participants to pair up with a stranger and exchange person items. He then regressed us and asked everyone to report their accounts. One person told of seeing a boy with a certain injury - very specific - and a person on the other side of the room knew of a person with the same situation. Another person gave the name of a boy with his condition to the stranger with whom she was paired. The stranger knew someone with the exact condition.

I am always cautious by nature to form beliefs but the evidence seen at this seminar was overwhelmingly clear. Beside just learning about past-lives, it strengthened my knowledge about the spiritual aspect of life. While I have always had a deep intuition about reincarnation and past-lives, this seminar turned it into something more experiential, personal. I encourage everyone with an interest to read about it. It may take practice, practice and more practice but the results are well worth it.

-William

Past life regression - with Dr. Brian Weiss

2009-03-09T16:45:00Z

4 of us attended a 1 day session with Dr. Weiss on March 8th in NYC.

Dr. Weiss is the author of famous book Many lives Many master which deals with past life regression.

details to follow.

The Funeral - Who is hindering your growth?

2008-06-20T04:13:00Z

One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big notice
on the door on which it was written: 'Yesterday the person who has been
hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join
the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym'.

In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their
colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who
was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company
itself. The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were
ordered to control the crowd within the room.

The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up.
Everyone thought: 'Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well,
at least he died!'

One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when
they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby
the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the
deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it
could see himself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said:

'There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth:
it is YOU. You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You
are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization
and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends
change, when your parents change, when your partner changes, when your
company changes.

Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting
beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your
life.

'The most important relationship you can have, is the one you have with
yourself'

Examine yourself, watch yourself. Don't be afraid of difficulties,
impossibilities and losses: be a winner, build yourself and your
reality. The world is like a mirror: it gives back to anyone the
reflection of the thoughts in which one has strongly believed.

The world and your reality are like mirrors lying in a coffin, which
show to any individual the death of his divine capability to imagine and
create his happiness and his success.

Why its so easy to fall into a Relationship but so hard to get out of one ?

2008-06-20T04:11:00Z

This will be our topic for coming meetup. So please take time to think abou this topic.

Below from Osho Times site

Our daughter go through a depressing divorce...

We are a middle-aged couple watching our daughter go through a depressing divorce. How can we help her and her little girl get through this with less pain?
Below is Osho’s reply to a similar question:
To fall in love is so easy. Why is it so difficult to fall out of love? So many discussions, tears, fights, fears.... I don’t want to hurt the person I’ve been with, because it’s not that there is no feeling. I’m so confused. Can you say something?

Falling is always easy. You can fall in any ditch. Getting out is difficult. But you will have to get out. Once the love disappears the ditch becomes hell. Then there is quarreling, argument, nagging, and every kind of nastiness from both sides. Nobody wants to hurt; but because he is hurting, she is hurting, unknowingly they go on dumping their hurt feelings on the other.
In the first place, when you start falling in love, when you are still not in the ditch, that is the time to ask me, because I have a totally different kind of love affair which is called rising in love. Then there is no problem. Rising in love is beautiful, and getting out of it is very easy, because that will be falling down. Falling down is easy, keep it for the next step; for the first step, always use rising. The easier step you have done, now you have to do the difficult one.
And it will happen -- all these tears and conflicts, but nothing can bring the love back.
A simple thing has to be understood: love -- the love that you are talking about -- is not in your hands. You have fallen into it. It was not in your power not to fall, so when it comes, it takes you with it. But it is like a breeze, it comes and goes. And it is good that it comes and goes, because if it stays it becomes stale.
A little understanding is needed on both sides, that the love is no longer there. There is no need to hate each other, because nobody has destroyed it -- nobody has created it. It had come like a breeze, you enjoyed those moments; be thankful to each other and help each other to come out of the ditch. In a ditch, that is the only way. The man, to be really manly, should give his shoulders for the woman to rise up and get out of the ditch. And the man can find his own gymnastics, how to do it.
But nobody asks me before falling. This is strange! For thirty-five years I have been waiting for somebody to ask me how to fall in love. Nobody asks that, because if you had asked that I would have suggested, "Never fall in love. Try to rise." And rising in love is a totally different matter.
Rising in love means a learning, a changing, a maturity. Rising in love ultimately helps you to become grown-up. And two grown-up persons don’t quarrel; they try to understand, they try to solve any problem.
Anybody who rises in love never falls from it, because rising is your effort, and the love that is grown through your effort is within your hands. But falling in love is not your effort.
Falling in love -- that love is going to be disrupted somewhere, and the sooner it is understood that it is gone, the better; otherwise you become too entangled in a thousand and one things. Those are the things which make it difficult to separate.
When you fall in love, no questions arise. You are clean, the other person is clean. But when you want to separate, the days, the nights, the years that you have lived together, loved together, experienced something which is one of the most beautiful gifts of nature -- you go on becoming entangled.
You go on giving promises to each other... and it is not that you are lying or deceiving; in those beautiful moments those promises seem to be absolutely coming from your heart. But when those moments are gone -- and they will be gone, because it has been a fall, and nobody can remain in a fallen state for eternity. Someday he has to rise again. And the moment you start separating, all those entanglements, your promises, the other’s promises, create the complexity.
Rising in love is something spiritual.
Falling in love is something biological.
Biology is blind, that’s why love is called blind. But the love I am talking about is the only insight that is easily available to everyone. Just a little effort....
Love should come out of your silence, awareness, meditativeness. It is soft, it is unbinding -- because how can love create fetters for the one who is loved? It is giving freedom to each other, more and more. As the love grows deeper, freedom becomes bigger. As the love grows deeper, you start accepting the person as he is. You stop trying to change the person.
It is one of the miseries of the world that lovers are continuously trying to change the other person. They don’t know that if the person really changes, their love will disappear, because they had not fallen in love with this changed person in the first place. They had fallen in love with a person who was not touched by their ideas -- "Change this and that."
Rising in love, you become aware that the other has his own territorial imperative, and you are not to encroach upon it.
If love becomes freedom, then there is no need to separate. The idea of separation arises because you go on seeing that you are becoming more and more a slave, and nobody likes slavery.
But you always ask me when you are in the ditch and cannot get out. One thing is certain: I am not coming into the ditch to take you out! You two have to manage it. If I come in the ditch to help you out, you both will be out and I will be in the ditch! And I don’t know anybody whom I can ask, "How to get out of here?"
I have never asked a single question of anybody about my life. It is my life, and I have to live it, I have to solve its problems. I have never taken any advice, I have never accepted anybody’s advice which was not asked for in the first place. I have told those people, "You have to understand that advice is the only thing everybody gives free of charge and nobody takes."
Why bother? Advice given by a person whom you have not asked cannot be very wise.
The wise man never imposes his idea on anyone.
If somebody asks him, he simply gives his insight.
It is not a commandment, that they have to do it; there is no "should" in it.
I can say only one thing: you have given each other beautiful moments -- be grateful, be thankful. The parting should not be ugly when the meeting was so beautiful.
You owe it to existence that the parting should be made beautiful. Forget all your promises -- they were right when they were given, but the time has changed, you have changed. You both are standing at a crossroads, ready to move in different directions; perhaps you may never meet again. Make it as graceful as possible. And once you understand that it has to happen, gracefully or ungracefully, then it is better to make it graceful.
At least, your lover will live in your memory, you will live in the memory of the lover. In a certain way, those moments together will always enrich you. But part gracefully.
And it is not difficult when you have understood love -- which is a very difficult phenomenon. You fell without a second thought; you can understand that very easily love has disappeared. Accept the truth of it, and don’t blame each other, because nobody is responsible.
Help each other gracefully; in deep friendship, part. Lovers when they separate become enemies. That is a strange kind of gratitude. They should become really friends. And if love can become friendship, there is no guilt, no grudge, no feeling that you have been cheated, exploited. Nobody has exploited anybody; it was just the biological energy which made you blind.
I teach a different kind of love.
It does not end in friendship but begins in friendship.
It begins in silence, in awareness. It is a love which is your own creation, which is not blind.
Such a love can last forever, can go on growing deeper and deeper.
Such a love is immensely sensitive. In this kind of relationship one starts feeling the need of the other person even before the other person has spoken.
I have known a few couples, very few couples -- my acquaintance with couples is big, but I have come across only two, three couples who had not fallen in love, who have risen in love. And the most miraculous thing about them was that they started feeling each other without words.
If the man was feeling thirsty, the woman would bring water. Nothing has been said just a synchronicity. If the loved one is feeling thirsty, she must start feeling thirsty herself. A transfer is happening continuously, words are not needed. Energies can relate directly without language.
Such a love needs nothing from the other.
It is grateful that the other receives something when he offers, or she offers.
It never feels in any kind of bondage, because there is none.
In such love, sex may happen sometimes, may not happen for months, and finally will disappear completely. In this context, sex is no longer sexual, but only a way of being together, going as deeply as possible into each other, an effort to reach the depths of the other. It has nothing to do with biological reproduction.
And once they start understanding that whatsoever they do.... In sex only their bodies can meet, then sex slowly disappears. Then a different kind of meeting starts happening which is just a meeting of energies. Holding hands, sitting together looking at the stars, it is more than any sexual orgasm can give -- two energies melting.
Sexual orgasm is physical, is bound to be the lowest kind. Orgasm which is not physical has tremendous beauty, and leads finally to self-realization. And if love cannot give you enlightenment, don’t call it love. Love is such a beautiful word. When you say, "Falling in love," you are using the word in an ugly way. Say "falling in sex"; be true. In love one always rises, never falls. But first you have to come out of the ditch. Help each other.
Biology is not going to help. Just be human to each other, and understand the point that the love that was blinding you is no longer there. Your eyes are open. Don’t try to deceive the other that you still love, you still feel, but what to do? This kind of hypocrisy is not good. Simply say, "The feeling is no longer there. I am sad and sorry about it, I would have loved the feeling to be there, but it is not there. And I know it is not there in you either."
Once it is understood that the feeling is gone, now at least, just as human beings, help each other to get out of the ditch. If you help, there is no problem. But instead of helping, each wants to get it finished but doesn’t allow the other to get out of the ditch. They go on pulling each other down.
Understand. The reason is fear; the old love is gone, the new has not yet arrived. It cannot arrive in your ditch, you will have to come out first. So the fear is of the unknown.
The past was so beautiful you would like to repeat it, so you try to force it, the other tries to force it. But these things are not within your power to force. A forced love is not love.
If you have to kiss somebody at the point of a sword -- "Kiss!" -- what kind of a kiss will that be? Looking at the sword, you may kiss, but it will not be a kiss at all.
Any love enforced for any reasons, is not love. And you both know what love is, because you had been in those moments; so you can compare easily that it is not the same thing. Help each other to come out -- and it is very easy if you help each other -- and part in grace.
Next time try not to fall, but try to rise.
Don’t let biology dominate you.
Your consciousness should be the master.

Relationship - Image of a perfect partner

2008-06-20T04:10:00Z

lets think and analyze the image that we carry in our mind of a perfect partner, how he/she should be like, how they should behave. What would make them a good partner?

Is time certain or uncertain?

2008-06-20T04:08:00Z

Recently Alan in one of our meetups, asked the question "Is the universe helpful, dangerous or neither", similar to this is the question is a certain time favorable, unfavorable OR neither.

I think universe, time is what it is! Its how we react to it, what we do with it.

Our life is a like a game of cards. When we are born we are given a set of cards. Its how we play them. Some times we get good cards sometimes bad. We have to play and enjoy. Why get caught up in the cards, they are temporary for short time just like life.

Here is Osho's answer to a similar question:

"There are no 'times of uncertanity' because time is always uncertain. It is the difficulty with the mind: mind wants certainty -- and time is always uncertain.

So when just by coincidence mind finds a small space of cerainty, it feels settled: a kind of illusory permancence surrounds it. It tends to forget the real nature of existence and life, it starts living in a kind of dream world; it starts mistaking appearance for reality. It feels good to the mind because mind is always afraid of change for the simple reason: who knows what change will bring -- good or bad? One thing is certain, that change will unsettle your world of illusions, expectations, dreams..." P153 - My diamond days with Osho by ma prem shunyo

Protagonize

2008-06-20T04:08:00Z

Written by Jason Hunter:

Do you remember the Choose Your Own Adventure books from when you were younger? You read a few pages, and come to a fork in the road. As your main character tries to escape the bad guys, he could either hope on a moving boxcar or hid in the bushes hoping to avoid detection. The fun of it all is going back through the story to see how it will all end, depending on each varied route you decide to take.

Protagonize would updates this concept by allowing contributions by the users. While there are countless websites out there that have an ongoing, round-the-robin formats for collaborative stories, Protagonize puts some handy tracking tools in there so that you can better stay afloat with the stories you like and those that you create. Other users can respond to your content, build on it, and take things in an entirely different direction.

Check it out...

http://protagonize.com/

About jbass

Born in Toronto, raised between Florida and New Jersey. My birthday is May 13th so if you want any brownie points from here on out, you'd better write that down. I enjoy hanging out with my friends, traveling, hanging out at my house and watching movies whenever I am not working. I run a web design company and have worked hard to get where I'm at. I do my best to make the best of any situation I'm in and always have a good time. I love all kinds of music, I am always listening to it and always looking for new bands to check out. Recently I've been into music in other languages. Without knowing what they are saying, I can really hear the beat. But I listen to anything and love to dance. I like every kind of food you can imagine, including sushi, thai, mexican, italian, chinese and anything else that is delicious. I'm currently single and totally happy with it, but I also love being in relationships and having someone to open my eyes to in the morning. I hate flaky people and people who have to be right all the time. I love meeting new people and hearing about the adventures that life has taken them on and sharing experiences with them. I consider myself an awesome friend and am always there for the people close to me. There's so much more I could write but I'm running out of space so how about you send me a message and we talk instead! And if you can't write me here, be creative and figure out another way.

Landmark Education

2008-06-20T04:06:00Z

Written by Jason Hunter:

In the summer of 2000 I was studying in Florence, Italy. One day on my way home from class, I recognized someone from home and yelled out to get her attention. That evening we shared a meal and swore that we would make an effort to stay close once we returned home. Fast forward 2 years. It's about 1am and I am on my way back to my car in a lot on Washington Street in Hoboken. Out of the dark, I hear my name being yelled and look up only to see... the same girl. This time, we promise to each other to keep in touch and make plans as soon as possible. Once again, another year or so goes by and neither of us have called the other. Then one day, out of the blue, I get a message from her that she has a website venture that she and 2 friends would like to talk to me about (because I am a web developer). So, FINALLY a meeting is arranged.

In this meeting she tells me about her project. It's a website intended to help connect like minded people. Of course I thought this was a great idea and we spent hours going over ways to make it happen. At the end of the meeting she tells me that she is very excited to work with me because she can tell that I have something really special going on. She asked me if I'd ever been through a course called Landmark Education.

I had never heard of it but I am always open to new things and this was a way for me to spend more time with this special person who continued to show up in my life at the most random places and times.

That following Tuesday I went with her to an Introduction. The seminar was led by an Indian woman who had a presence on stage that I couldn't help but be intrigued. I remember she told a story about a little girl who once ran up to her father who was working at his desk and asked him to play with her. She said no, that he was busy, and the little girl ran off disappointed. She explained that the little girl, without knowing any better, metaphorically put on a pair of glasses. A few years later this same little girl was in school and asked if she could play kickball with a group of boys during recess. As most 10 year old boys will do, they said no and again the little girl walked away, placing a new pair of glasses on top of her old ones. When the little girl got to high school, she wanted to go to her prom with a boy who apparently wanted to go with someone else. Again feeling rejected, she subconsciously placed a third pair of glasses over her eyes. Now as you can imagine, this little girl can no longer possibly see clearly and every relationship she entered into was clouded by these glasses from her childhood.

The Landmark Education Leader proceeded to explain that what they do there, is help you to remove the glasses. It was a nice story and I could see that other people in the room really wanted more. I wasn't quite sold but I stuck around. I stuck around long enough for the woman to come over and introduce herself. When she did, I extended my hand to meet hers and could feel her energy transfer to me. I actually remember being shocked and telling her how nice it was to meet her. Although it seemed that most people had things "wrong" with their lives that they came to Landmark to "fix," at that point I was pretty open to what this could be. At the very least, I know that I would meet some great people.

A few weeks later I found myself back in the same room, along with about 100 other people. As the seminar began a few people started getting very agitated asking all sorts of questions accusing Landmark of brainwashing. The leader met each accusation with an explanation and eventually some of the protesters just got up and left. With a full refund of course. For me, I was still intrigued.

Over the next 3 days, we spent 10 hours a day listening to lectures and doing exercises. This is the Landmark Education curriculum . Up until day 2 I still had no idea what I was getting from it. Meanwhile, dozens of people were eager to get up on stage and talk about their breakthroughs to the whole room. For one of the exercises, I turned to talk with the person next to me and began sharing a brief history of myself. This person heard something I subconsciously had said and pointed it out to me. Basically, this was my story:

My parents divorced when I was 1. For the next few years, my father was for the most part nonexistent in my life (for one reason or another - depending on who I ask). At 10, my dad bought me plane ticket to come visit him in California. When I landed, I was introduced to a nice woman and her two daughters. I rode with him on his motorcycle, we went to an amusement park, to Mexico, I got to be in a pool every day... long story short, I had a great time and when I got home I was hysterical crying. Finally my mom called him and had me talk to him to calm me down. What he told me in that conversation was that the reason he wanted me to come out there was to get my approval of this woman he wanted to marry. I immediately stopped crying and began living my life. I say it like that because up until then, I don't have many memories at all. And from that point on, I remember almost everything.

Speeding ahead to my current life, I began to tell my exercise partner about my business. I mentioned that sometimes when I am in meetings with clients, that I feel like they look at me as if I was 15 year old kid. My partner quickly did the math. I was 25 at the time, feeling like I was 15. 25 minus 15 is the 10 years I have no memories. I still didn't understand what this really meant... until I called my dad on a break to share this with him.

He and his wife (the woman I had met 15 years ago), were driving and had me on speakerphone. I shared with them this story and my dad said to me, "Jason, I can't believe that you don't know how much you have always meant to me." ... I started balling. Right on 34th Street on the front steps of a church with hundreds of people walking by me.

In that moment, I finally got it. I was able to take off those glasses that the Indian woman was talking about and see clearly. That night when I left Landmark, I took a cab downtown to meet some friends for drinks. Every person I saw, including the cab driver, had a new aura around them. I felt more open and more powerful than ever before. Of course, none of my friends noticed anything different, but I knew I'd never be the same. For someone who went through life thinking they had such a deep understanding of life of his self, I all the sudden felt reborn.

Someone else once gave the glasses explanation a different way... He said that if you could think of your life as a filing cabinet, everything in your past is actually being placed in your future as well. So that when you get there, you are already looking at it a certain way because of the story you've already assigned it in your past. I'm sure you can identify with what he's talking about.

If I sat here to write all the individual things that have come to me because of the possibilities that I created for myself and my life in that weekend at Landmark, we'd be here all night. What I can tell you is that using myself as an example, someone who didn't know why I was there, I found Landmark to be worth every penny (about $350) and hope that you are open to give it a look.

If you are interested in learning more about Landmark Education, you can visit their website at http://www.landmarkeducation.com

How to Balance work & relationships ?

2008-06-20T03:59:00Z

We ended our weekly discussion with agreement that we need to acheive a balance in our lives.

When we get into a relationship, everything is so beautifull. One reason is that we are willing to sacrifice everything and give maximum time to our partner. We allow ourselves to miss classes, we leave work on time, call in sick....

But when honey moon period is over, we start paying more attention to everything other than our partner. Some times its the circumstances that require us to work more, attend events, take care of a sick family member.

What we perhaps need to ask ourselves is how I can balance my life. How can do everything else but still do my necessary part to keep my relationship going, alive, vibrant ? Lets all delve a bit deeper.... and come with our thoughts!