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reference - All Commentshttp://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/default.aspxenCommunityServer 2008 (Build: 30417.1769)re: Landmark Educationhttp://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/landmark-education.aspx#59Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:46:24 GMTd4787dd9-2c19-46dc-a803-42036c85770a:59Jazz<p>Thanks for the writeup & presentation to the group.</p> <p>I liked the analogy of blind spots of car & Landmark helping people see their blind spots. I am also interested in knowing how to be able to do the things that I always wanted to do.</p> <p>Todays discussion on our meetup was special. I got the message that to achieve we need to let our aspiration into the universe, totally believe that it will happen and then keep focusing our energy making it happen.</p> <p>I hope one day possibly to attend the Landmark.</p> <div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="http://meetandgrow.com/aggbug.aspx?PostID=59" width="1" height="1"><br /><div style="border : 1px solid #666666;"><p>This Comment is currently Published.<br />The spam blocker rated it as NotProcessed with a score of 0.</p><p>You can control the status of this comment with the links below.<br /><a href="http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/landmark-education.aspx#59">View</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=moderate&postids=59">Unpublish</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=delete&postids=59">Delete</a></p></div>re: Relationship - Image of a perfect partnerhttp://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/relationship-image-of-a-perfect-partner.aspx#58Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:45:01 GMTd4787dd9-2c19-46dc-a803-42036c85770a:58Christina<p>Rose, very well said.  I don't think I could have said it better.  Some ponderings for your question...  Love yourself unconditional and share this unconditional love with others.  When we love everyone in our lives unconditionally, then we can accept them for who they are.  Also, realizing the differences in life energies.  Check out the Life Energies DVD by Gary Null (www.garynull.com).  </p> <div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="http://meetandgrow.com/aggbug.aspx?PostID=58" width="1" height="1"><br /><div style="border : 1px solid #666666;"><p>This Comment is currently Published.<br />The spam blocker rated it as NotProcessed with a score of 0.</p><p>You can control the status of this comment with the links below.<br /><a href="http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/relationship-image-of-a-perfect-partner.aspx#58">View</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=moderate&postids=58">Unpublish</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=delete&postids=58">Delete</a></p></div>re: Relationship - Image of a perfect partnerhttp://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/relationship-image-of-a-perfect-partner.aspx#57Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:44:42 GMTd4787dd9-2c19-46dc-a803-42036c85770a:57Rose<p>There is no perfect partner.  If I believe ( as I do)  that we are all a work in progress, constantly growing and changing, then it becomes impossible to maintain my "list" .  That being said, I believe a successful relationship should enhance an already full and happy life. I like the concept the we are already everything we need to be and I try to remember that as I continue on my journey of self discovery. We need to maintain a love affair with ourselves first; discover and accept our own gifts, talents, fears, limitations, etc...  so that we can offer the entire package of who we are to our loved one.  I think a prerequesite for love is feeling safe enough to share our thoughts and feelings without fear of judgement.  That means both parties having the courage to take off their masks and reveal their authentic selves.  This has always been a challenge for me.  I have spent a lot of time searching for my knight in shining armor and, in the process of projecting my own needs on to him, realized I had no real desire to know who he was.  I needed him to be who I wanted him to be and, consequently, we both lost the opportunity for real intimacy and connection.</p> <p>Ideally, a good partner should be authentic, non-judgmental and accepting.  The question for me is this: how do I let go of my own fears, needs and ego enough to cultivate the same qualities in myself that I'm looking for in someone else?</p> <div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="http://meetandgrow.com/aggbug.aspx?PostID=57" width="1" height="1"><br /><div style="border : 1px solid #666666;"><p>This Comment is currently Published.<br />The spam blocker rated it as NotProcessed with a score of 0.</p><p>You can control the status of this comment with the links below.<br /><a href="http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/relationship-image-of-a-perfect-partner.aspx#57">View</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=moderate&postids=57">Unpublish</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=delete&postids=57">Delete</a></p></div>re: Relationship - Image of a perfect partnerhttp://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/relationship-image-of-a-perfect-partner.aspx#56Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:44:24 GMTd4787dd9-2c19-46dc-a803-42036c85770a:56Joanne<p>Perfect partner?  Is there such a thing?  When we're hurt by a past relationship would our perfect partner be the opposite of what we just had?  Does our "ideal" change over time from broad idealistic dreams (he should be loving, honest, handsome,  etc.) to scaled down basics (he shouldn't be an alcoholic!)? This will be an interesting subject to think about this week....</p> <div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="http://meetandgrow.com/aggbug.aspx?PostID=56" width="1" height="1"><br /><div style="border : 1px solid #666666;"><p>This Comment is currently Published.<br />The spam blocker rated it as NotProcessed with a score of 0.</p><p>You can control the status of this comment with the links below.<br /><a href="http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/relationship-image-of-a-perfect-partner.aspx#56">View</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=moderate&postids=56">Unpublish</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=delete&postids=56">Delete</a></p></div>re: Relationship - Image of a perfect partnerhttp://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/relationship-image-of-a-perfect-partner.aspx#55Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:44:07 GMTd4787dd9-2c19-46dc-a803-42036c85770a:55Alan<p>The perfect partner:  Attractive, fit, fun, spirited, easygoing.  Independent but affectionate.  Active.  Loves the shore (like me).  Similar interests but some of her own.  Not high maintenance, but likes to go out and do things.  Supportive of my (and our) goals and dreams.  </p> <div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="http://meetandgrow.com/aggbug.aspx?PostID=55" width="1" height="1"><br /><div style="border : 1px solid #666666;"><p>This Comment is currently Published.<br />The spam blocker rated it as NotProcessed with a score of 0.</p><p>You can control the status of this comment with the links below.<br /><a href="http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/relationship-image-of-a-perfect-partner.aspx#55">View</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=moderate&postids=55">Unpublish</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=delete&postids=55">Delete</a></p></div>re: Why its so easy to fall into a Relationship but so hard to get out of one ?http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/why-its-so-easy-to-fall-into-a-relationship-but-so-hard-to-get-out-of-one.aspx#54Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:43:13 GMTd4787dd9-2c19-46dc-a803-42036c85770a:54Alan<p>I think we fall in love, not just for biological reasons (i.e., the need for touch, sex, reproduction), but also because, at some level, we unconsciously recognize that we are incomplete, that there is something more to "being" than we normally experience in our everyday lives.  Being human and somewhat flawed in our understanding of completeness, we look outside ourselves for someone or something to complete us.  We define ourselves and our happiness by what we can achieve, or worse, what we can acquire.  So, we try to "acquire" a partner and "achieve" love.  This is not to say that we can't evolve through loving another.  I think we can.  There is definitely growth in establishing and maintaining loving relationships.  But ultimately, we have to realize that happiness and fulfillment are internal states, created and maintained by ourselves.</p> <div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="http://meetandgrow.com/aggbug.aspx?PostID=54" width="1" height="1"><br /><div style="border : 1px solid #666666;"><p>This Comment is currently Published.<br />The spam blocker rated it as NotProcessed with a score of 0.</p><p>You can control the status of this comment with the links below.<br /><a href="http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/why-its-so-easy-to-fall-into-a-relationship-but-so-hard-to-get-out-of-one.aspx#54">View</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=moderate&postids=54">Unpublish</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=delete&postids=54">Delete</a></p></div>re: Why its so easy to fall into a Relationship but so hard to get out of one ?http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/why-its-so-easy-to-fall-into-a-relationship-but-so-hard-to-get-out-of-one.aspx#53Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:42:53 GMTd4787dd9-2c19-46dc-a803-42036c85770a:53Deb<p>Get therapy for both daughter and granddaughter.  They need support and an empathetic ear.  I am not sure what the above has to do with the question.  The pain of a divorce is a death of sorts and the pain lasts as long as it lasts.  There is no time frame for grief.  There are no shoulds, no get over it, no time's up, only time will heal this wound and the support of loved ones.  It is difficult to accept advice from those who have never experienced divorce.  It is a difficult time for everyone.  The parent feels guilt for taking the other parent away from the child on a daily basis, the child feels guilt - they believe they are the cause of the divorce.  Although the child's belief is usually erroneous, it is still felt and carried with them until they leave this earth.  Love is wonderful when it is new and not fraut with disappointments and losses.  Love can be life long or fleeting, no one really knows what life has in store for them, they can only learn to cope with the here and now.  I will this family time to heal and counseling to make the journey easier.</p> <div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="http://meetandgrow.com/aggbug.aspx?PostID=53" width="1" height="1"><br /><div style="border : 1px solid #666666;"><p>This Comment is currently Published.<br />The spam blocker rated it as NotProcessed with a score of 0.</p><p>You can control the status of this comment with the links below.<br /><a href="http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/20/why-its-so-easy-to-fall-into-a-relationship-but-so-hard-to-get-out-of-one.aspx#53">View</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=moderate&postids=53">Unpublish</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=delete&postids=53">Delete</a></p></div>re: How to Balance work & relationships ?http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/19/how-to-balance-work-amp-relationships.aspx#52Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:41:25 GMTd4787dd9-2c19-46dc-a803-42036c85770a:52Julie<p>I think that if a person's spirit is alive and vibrant, then keeping a relationship alive and vibrant can be simple.  The  enthusiasm that one feels for life can simply become transferred into his / her relationship, and when this is true for both people in the relationship, it can be a great experience.  Difficulty can arise when one's enthusiasm for life wains or when one's partner is not alive or vibrant.  When one person in the relationship falls into depression, becomes distracted or neglectful, that person may be suffering too, and that may cause the relationship to suffer.  Another question related to this topic could be:  How do we keep ourselves alive and vibrant, and what can we do when our partner (or family member or good friend) is not?</p> <div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="http://meetandgrow.com/aggbug.aspx?PostID=52" width="1" height="1"><br /><div style="border : 1px solid #666666;"><p>This Comment is currently Published.<br />The spam blocker rated it as NotProcessed with a score of 0.</p><p>You can control the status of this comment with the links below.<br /><a href="http://meetandgrow.com/blogs/reference/archive/2008/06/19/how-to-balance-work-amp-relationships.aspx#52">View</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=moderate&postids=52">Unpublish</a>  |  <a href="http://meetandgrow.com/controlpanel/blogs/comments.aspx?sectionid=25&action=delete&postids=52">Delete</a></p></div>